tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30314270.post3899664442670926894..comments2023-08-27T01:57:54.774-07:00Comments on uaeian: match makersroshhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03271894997251528158noreply@blogger.comBlogger55125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30314270.post-75464534928415154492007-10-19T13:07:00.000-07:002007-10-19T13:07:00.000-07:00*sevensummits, keine erstaunliche Erwartung. Moin,...*sevensummits, keine erstaunliche Erwartung. Moin, moin ;)i*maginatehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11768590735811322295noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30314270.post-68049819693912171582007-10-17T17:12:00.000-07:002007-10-17T17:12:00.000-07:00Rosh, you got to look in the shadow to find them :...Rosh, <BR/>you got to look in the shadow to find them :-) But after all life is somewhat fair and he didn’t get “it” either :P <BR/><BR/>Bridget, <BR/>help – better for her that this didn’t work out. After all the romance back to serious analysis - it would have meant "life imprisonment" for her. (to put it mildly!) What's more, you may dumb Sarzoky, but with some people you would be opting for a “no way out” situation. Anyhow, the good news was that his cousin copied the method and got himself the next available sweet Danish girl with fascinating big blue eyes. The guy said “to h***” to everyone that tried to stop him and moved with her to Geneva. I couldn’t believe it and took a flight to Switzerland at the next possible chance to visit them. When I actually saw “him” (now this is another spoiled chap) standing in the kitchen cooking dinner for her, I just resigned and after seeing this obviously “everything is possible!” In fact they were probably the most “spectacular beautiful couple” I have ever seen in my entire life. He is tall, (German definition of tall – so about 1.90m) tanned with black curly hair and she is about 1.75, really fair skin, blonde with those amazing eyes. (A mix of chocolate and champagne cream comes instantly into ones mind)<BR/><BR/>i*maginate<BR/>“Absolut richtig geraten, Prinzessin :-)”Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30314270.post-35641770075301423202007-10-17T12:53:00.000-07:002007-10-17T12:53:00.000-07:00Gott in Himmel, sevensummits, you have done a grea...Gott in Himmel, sevensummits, you have done a great disservice to Germany by implying romance and Germany do not combine well.<BR/><BR/>Is this perhaps the land from which the epics "Nibelungenlied" and "Tristan" come from?<BR/><BR/>And here is a difficult translation for non-German speakers: "Danke fuer das Kompliment" - now I shall have to resort to celebrating with a quick cycle trip around the Alster!<BR/><BR/>And wrt to the little tale...something to do with MBC's owner? hehei*maginatehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11768590735811322295noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30314270.post-26937354604342826402007-10-17T09:43:00.000-07:002007-10-17T09:43:00.000-07:00Oh, I also wanted to share this:The wife of the re...Oh, I also wanted to share this:<BR/><BR/>The wife of the recently elected French President, Nicholas Sarzoky, Cecilia, HAS FILED FOR DIVORCE. She must be one formidable woman to want to divorce a man who is possibly one of the most powerful and notorious in the world, just months after he becomes President!<BR/><BR/>Why do I have the feeling that most Dubai-based girls will have trouble relating to Cecila ha! ;)Jones. Bridget Jones.https://www.blogger.com/profile/13891952469037092164noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30314270.post-82255026722036545112007-10-17T09:36:00.000-07:002007-10-17T09:36:00.000-07:00Beautiful story 7S, thanks for sharing :) If only ...Beautiful story 7S, thanks for sharing :) If only they had ended up together!<BR/><BR/>My two cents' worth - this guy was attracted by the challenge in the first place - a woman who doesn't cave in? U must be kidding! His ego did the rest and he ended up falling in love :)<BR/><BR/>The difference between this guy and the guys in Dubai is this: Dubai guys are mostly average fellas who were probably not used to so much easy fun until they came to Dubai, and they certainly cannot boast they can get anyone and everyone, unlike Prince Charming in your story. So their appetite is far from satiated! When they meet a reserved girl, they can't be bothered with making the effort - there's just too much easy meat available on the market to bother with a "difficult" girl..<BR/><BR/>That being said, I don't lose hope of meeting my Prince Charming :) In any case it will take a very special bloke to win me over, not just any Tom, Dick or.. Ali :))<BR/><BR/>Until then, I'm happy to blog about the lil and big dramas in my quest for everlasting love ;)Jones. Bridget Jones.https://www.blogger.com/profile/13891952469037092164noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30314270.post-86126249188029310392007-10-17T09:01:00.000-07:002007-10-17T09:01:00.000-07:00....and for the record, a girl like that, is whom .......and for the record, a girl like that, is whom most men really want to make a home with - yes, me included :)<BR/><BR/>Why are they so hard to find?roshhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03271894997251528158noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30314270.post-17284794549669962992007-10-17T08:59:00.000-07:002007-10-17T08:59:00.000-07:00OMG 7S: That was beautiful, and you told it so wel...OMG 7S: That was beautiful, and you told it so well. Sah, it's true - true love knows no boundaries, borders, religion and all else man made. I've always believed a heart sees another heart, then the person. If only all hearts were not so over-shadowed by the mind so often.<BR/><BR/>BTW, now am starting to believe you have a strong sensitive side, like SJP in Sex and the City lol : ) OK am kidding :)<BR/><BR/>But that was quite beautiful - goes to prove scientists (and Germans) can be romantic too eh :)roshhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03271894997251528158noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30314270.post-6248963268993424172007-10-17T07:31:00.000-07:002007-10-17T07:31:00.000-07:00Hey Anon, careful :- )- she is our beautiful Princ...Hey Anon, careful :- )- <B>she is our beautiful Princess </B>– maybe currently with a little “drama” (see above)! Thanks for the compliment!<BR/>________<BR/><BR/>i*maginate – <BR/>now that was too easy – even I could have figured it out, so you got to come up with something a little more difficult to challege our brains :- )<BR/>__________<BR/><BR/>Bridget, <BR/>No need to despair – there are always exceptions to the general norm :- ) (but in general you are absolutely correct, especially about Dubai!)<BR/><BR/>___________<BR/><BR/>Ok, my work is asking for solution-based approaches, which again requires a great amount of positive thinking these days in the first place. So let me try to conclude with a positive “romance story”, even thou it may certainly not be the norm. Romance and Germans – bad combination - mhhhh, but I will give it a try :-)<BR/><BR/>It may sound like a Hollywood production or a fairly tale, but fortunately this was a true event and I was lucky enough to be an eye witness. This happened about two decades ago during summer break and should sufficiently demonstrate that not all men have lost the ability to judge. (or put women in general categories, without taking a closer look) ) <BR/><BR/>So once upon at time a super spoiled Khaleeji boy happen to be on vacation in Europe and instead of having a great time he painfully discovered that not every female has a price. Maybe “she” was the only thing that he didn’t get in his life and when I say spoiled, I really mean that he simply had everything – including the most smashing chicks - at his disposal. <BR/>Nobody really knows how he managed to ignore all those available choices and to only have eyes for “her”, but something magically attracted him to this cute, shy girl, that always stayed in the background. She was definitely not the spectacular beauty, with zero visible curves that could have attracted the average dude and she was more like a mousy girl in Jeans, T-shirts and sneakers, but she had a beautiful, mysterious smile.<BR/><BR/>He tried everything a womanizing Khaleeji guy can think of to only get her attention. Nothing, no chance on earth – she simply ignored him, just like she ignored all those other males that tried to come on to her. Besides she was well protected by all her friends! Prince Charming was so frustrated and made an effort to show up with his entourage to all her favorite places just to sit there and smile at her for hours. She started to be utterly embarrassed with all this unnecessary attention and she started covering her face with long curly blonde hair, so that he would stop observing her. Now that turned him on even more! Everybody else (his cousins, brothers and her friends) thought it was a really amusing situation! Besides all this nonsense, he was a likable, handsome fellow with a charming smile and even more important “extremely smart”. He saw in “his princess” those inner values that he was really looking for and that was just irresistible for him. Eventually he figured out a smart trick to get her into his “territory”, by inviting her male friends to a function. Of course she didn’t know that this was in his home and her male friends didn’t either. Like a winner and so blissful, he stood there in the entrance saying “now you are a guest in my house and you will have to speak with me!” She was really scared, but followed him for a moonlight walk in the garden and the private beach. It must have been a monologue, but whatever he said to her caused her to develop some feelings for him as well.<BR/><BR/>The story did not have a happy ending, because this was obviously way before mobiles and email. They were both too young for something serious and while he was in university in the States, she was doing a voluntary internship in a development organization in a remote country. Nevertheless he was a total gentleman, never tried to harm her in any way or made any sexual advances towards her. They did not have a lot of time together and his summer vacation came to an unexpectedly early end. Before he left to the airport he took her aside and made her swear to God that she would never change. Yet he made a terrible mistake by instantly being too possessive trying to impose a lot of restrictions on her and hence sufficiently scared her away. This certainly proves that if guys are intelligent enough they will respect inner values and morals, instead of the artificial material beauty. <BR/><BR/>He is now about 25 kilos heavier :-) and one of the wealthiest man in the world. His ability to judge (plus a good startup) has enabled him to build a business that we can now all enjoy when we switch on our TVs. Most stupid thing he ever did was to move it from London to Dubai, but if these two should ever meet again – I want to be there! (which is really unlikely to happen)<BR/>So real love will go across cultures, religion and respect those special character traits!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30314270.post-61861855677344047322007-10-17T03:17:00.000-07:002007-10-17T03:17:00.000-07:00*rosh, correct translation hehe :)Anon, I am more ...*rosh, correct translation hehe :)<BR/><BR/>Anon, I am more than desperate! Please email me so I can get to know your "inside that grows."<BR/><BR/>thx rosh...:)i*maginatehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11768590735811322295noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30314270.post-26488044417225012012007-10-16T14:57:00.000-07:002007-10-16T14:57:00.000-07:00Anon: glad you liked the post,and I fully agree wi...Anon: glad you liked the post,and I fully agree with your views. It's what's inside that counts, be it an apple, an orange, a man or a woman :)<BR/><BR/>Get to know i*.. - you'll like her :)roshhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03271894997251528158noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30314270.post-53682698216156996562007-10-16T14:43:00.000-07:002007-10-16T14:43:00.000-07:00I like this post and the comments that sevensummit...I like this post and the comments that sevensummits have added are wonderful and very insightful. I am a firm believer that a successful relationship has a stronger inner bond than outer bond. Physical connection only goes so far but it's the inside that grows and is much more meaningful and more lasting!<BR/><BR/>By the way, why does this i*maginate lady show off so much and try so hard to get attention from all you guys? Is she seriously *that* desperate? tee hee! No offense!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30314270.post-17532355250897046802007-10-16T12:35:00.000-07:002007-10-16T12:35:00.000-07:00"*Buj, waynak?! Inthetharak el kit kat al haina......"*Buj, waynak?! Inthetharak el kit kat al haina...yalla, bsurah!"<BR/><BR/>Translation:<BR/><BR/>"BuJ, sup? Where is my Kit Kat, come on dude hurry it up, will ya!"<BR/><BR/>*grins ear to ear, blinding display of white teeth*<BR/><BR/>Did I get it correct huh? huh? huh? :)roshhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03271894997251528158noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30314270.post-60278066726946047012007-10-16T12:04:00.000-07:002007-10-16T12:04:00.000-07:00Sex, love, rock'n'roll?*Buj, waynak?! Inthetharak ...Sex, love, rock'n'roll?<BR/><BR/>*Buj, waynak?! Inthetharak el kit kat al haina...yalla, bsurah!i*maginatehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11768590735811322295noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30314270.post-36414509763789781082007-10-15T13:03:00.000-07:002007-10-15T13:03:00.000-07:00Seems like everybody's talking about it Bridget :)...Seems like everybody's talking about it Bridget :)roshhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03271894997251528158noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30314270.post-79547428882647203482007-10-15T11:53:00.000-07:002007-10-15T11:53:00.000-07:00I recall reading this 'ad' from someone's blog tha...I recall reading this 'ad' from someone's blog that had a link to the UAE Community. Back then, I thought that it was just an ironic ad (fake) to make a point about money-minded conceited women..? No? <BR/><BR/>I don't think it is just NY girls who are so materialistic. Dubai is full of them.. The difference maybe is that in Dubai they are not thinking of marriage, just money, and in return give out their favours... So much so that guys in Dubai have come to expect that every girl would behave likewise :((Jones. Bridget Jones.https://www.blogger.com/profile/13891952469037092164noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30314270.post-86801785946554612602007-10-15T05:45:00.000-07:002007-10-15T05:45:00.000-07:007S:Really helpful and deep insight on the issue of...7S:<BR/><BR/>Really helpful and deep insight on the issue of relationships! What do you do for a living? <BR/><BR/>Sex and the City - I don't have the foggiest about this show. It is only NOW that I know that Mr. Big and Carrie are characters on that show. I would often hear people bring these characters up and I would just stare right through them thinking "what are these guys going on about??"al-republicanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09692379981976981057noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30314270.post-4919956422994898742007-10-14T19:17:00.000-07:002007-10-14T19:17:00.000-07:00hahhaha lol 7S: yeah, I am a Sex and the City fan,...hahhaha lol 7S: yeah, I am a Sex and the City fan, and SJP is just super. You are so correct, she's a la Steffi eh? meaning, she's not that typical beautiful woman with the perfect height, perfect hair and features etc - but something about her, the persona & package, just has a guy falling all over :)<BR/><BR/>BTW, this past Friday, they were shooting a wedding scene, for the upcoming Sex and the City movie - at Bryant Park on 42nd Street. I saw Mr Big and Carrie, Charlotte, Samantha and Miranda - it was sooo cool :) <BR/><BR/>Thanks for all that insight, it's quite invaluable. You are quite knowledgeable on this issue. I <BR/>concur with most of what you say.roshhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03271894997251528158noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30314270.post-61271638484544511082007-10-14T04:52:00.000-07:002007-10-14T04:52:00.000-07:00I need a Kit Kat - Buj, please courier over the tw...I need a Kit Kat - Buj, please courier over the two bar variety.i*maginatehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11768590735811322295noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30314270.post-73281558488668945672007-10-14T04:29:00.000-07:002007-10-14T04:29:00.000-07:00Rosh, you just publicly admitted that you watched ...Rosh, you just publicly admitted that you watched SATC – ahhhhh, no German male would ever confess to this, even after enjoying one week of Osama’s hospitality. <BR/>LOL – you are terrific! Don’t worry, everyone else did :-) <BR/>So I can see you are the Carrie (she is so cute isn’t she?) - plus a bit of Steffi of course - type and Al is definitely a “Charlotte” fan. Didn’t I love the political correctness and the obvious US “would like to be conservative attitude”, that they all ended up in monogamous relationships in the end??? These days I observe the actions at Crane, Poole & Schmidt (Boston Legal) and Alan Shaw’s hilarious approach to women – just ROFL. (a unisex must see!) <BR/><BR/>I also admire your critical assessment Al of how religion is often abused to justify the most disgraceful behavior. It is absurd, isn’t it? This conduct will often contribute to the misconception that most Westerners have of the Islamic world. We have trouble understanding why people still claim to be religious after all this obvious hedonistic behavior. Of course, nobody is perfect, but to do something so willfully wrong does simply not correlate with “being religious”. And there is absolutely no need to apologize about “a practice” that according to numerous studies has been identified as the no 1 sexual fantasy for males on a global scale. Yet, even I am aware that Islam (or the interpretation of) will object to this practice and undeniably for obvious reasons. Hygienic concerns, health risks and the simple fact that most women do not share this idea should bring everyone to common sense. But again – we all eat fast food, even though we know it is bad for us. At least one should make an effort to be reasonable!<BR/><BR/>Those fellows would suffer from PTSD for the rest of their lives after meeting me - that is for sure. If I just hate one thing it is when men abuse the feelings of women. (any woman, even a prostitute!) <BR/><BR/>Why would anyone be so low and willfully abuse something as beautiful as “love”. We already have enough trouble in this world and their behavior is exactly what makes our “spectacular beauty” to be the way she is: “Cold and opportunistic” Why don’t these jerks simply pay for a prostitute instead of abusing the feelings of these girls? I still remember a flight, when I had this spectacular beautiful Iranian girl next to me – she cried the entire flight, because this Emirati dude first promised her the world and thereafter dumped her like a piece of trash. I could hear in her words how much she still loved this guy and was still finding excuses for his behavior. She was this typical shy, modest girl that I was talking about before, fully covered in a very conservative hijab and she obviously only made one mistake “believing this idiot” simply as a result of being too innocent to understand that the world is bad. Now she was on her way to Teheran to explain this terrible mistake to her family and I really hope that everything went well for her – but I had a bad feeling about it. The question remains - why??? No respect for certain values or human life in general? People judge too easily and so many times I have seen how girls got abused in developing countries, because their “unaware” approach to life never taught them how to say no to a harassing and pressuring male. Dubai is full of women that are just asking for an exchange deal. Gifts for sex and no questions asked – why do these idiots have to hit on little, innocent girls? <BR/>But even these Hindu girls or (fake?!) blondes from Europe may just be really in love with them, so why is there a need to abuse such feelings?<BR/><BR/>The opposite is what Rosh is describing and I fully agree with you in this respect - it is just a real turn off. I used to be irritated with this third date fixation, because I felt that was really rushing things and as you said – you really know nothing about the other person even after two successful dates. In this respect very funny article: <A HREF="http://catb.org/~esr/writings/promiscuity.html" REL="nofollow">The Biology of Promiscuity</A><BR/><BR/>Strangely this is a topic that is just something everyone is trying to figure out! I have never been to a scientific event where eventually in the evening people were not engaged in a discussion about love, sex and relationships. It is quite amusing when a bunch of professors from all over the world are trying to find a scientific consensus about this very irrational topic. However these discussions are usually very open and show an accumulation of scientific evidence that various people have been reading about. Actually these are the results to the question “What do women want from men?” after a three hours discussion at my last event in a mixed group (male and female and from various cultural and religious backgrounds) – at least the part we all agreed upon :-) and I hope that you an anti feminist blocking mechanism for this blog? <BR/>[Of course this was based on the assumption of a modern environment, where women are no longer financially dependent on men!]<BR/>We conclude that no matter how modern and emancipated women are, they will always remain victims of their instincts and will prefer a partner that will be able to protect them and take care of them! Very intense sex can actually help to redefine roles (the only option we have nowadays) and give a relationship that special concrete foundation that will fix little day to day difficulties. Women need lots of attention, patience and trust! (turns a furious tigress instantly into a purring pussy cat)<BR/><BR/>A good relationship will in our opinion be based on “friendship”, “communication skills”, “humor” and “trust” and we all agreed that too much daily routine will kill any relationship. In our modern, extremely stressful world (obviously a more Western approach) - long distance love is often more exiting, because when you have a chance to see your partner you will make the maximum out of valuable time. Nobody has the energy after working 10+ hours, plus maybe additional two hours traffic to still pay sufficient attention to the needs of a partner, so that is considered a serious problem. <BR/><BR/>Yet the drama will unfortunately be there: Women – no matter how intelligent and rational in life – tend to get really agitated, when it comes to relationships. As you already mentioned, they can overreact to basically anything and enormous patience is needed. Just remember that people in the West talk a lot more about sex than they actually are engaged in, so I wouldn’t worry too much about those “NY hot topics” and just assume that they are engaged in “wishful thinking”. <BR/><BR/>To be honest, I don’t give your “lovely couple” a lot of chance, because it seems that they are still too immature for such a relationship and how on earth will they fix it after all this? It would be worse, if they will have children, so better to be reasonable now. But respect for tradition and ancestry? Shouldn’t it be respect for yourself and your partner, instead? <BR/><BR/>Got confused with “most UAE women aren't anything like that” meaning that the myth is correct and they do dress up for their husbands or not. Al said yes, what do you say? And why are these guys constantly complaining then???Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30314270.post-87772192090409557212007-10-13T17:53:00.000-07:002007-10-13T17:53:00.000-07:007S: agree with most of what you say. Human mind/na...7S: agree with most of what you say. Human mind/nature is simple, complex, convoluted and diverse. Don't why some men or women find monogamy painful, whilst others a pleasure - and these souls exist in every culture, religion and nation, perhaps varying in volume.<BR/><BR/>Last weekend, I was at a friend's first year wedding anniversary. She an American born/bred, Indian Punjabi, married to a Caucasian Joe American. They dated for about 3 years and tied the knot last year. For the past 5 months, they've been seeing a marriage counsellor. One reason being, both feel marriage is quite *restrictive*. Both still love to club and flirt with strangers. She thinks, he has changed much after marriage - she suspects he's cheating. He knows she has cheated. And these are two educated, independent, well to do and *spectacularly beautiful* people.<BR/><BR/>Anyhow, sorry to burden your minds with that bleak scenario. But it does get me thinking - what does it take some folks to commit and stay committed. If you take those vows in front of God - the same God you parents and your grandparents did so, wouldn't you want to be honest and honour them -not just for yourself, but out of respect for tradition and ancestry?<BR/><BR/>I agree with Al - most UAE women aren't anything like that 7S (you should hear it from Inspire, she'd have stories of her friends and from the voluntary work in the UAE). <BR/><BR/>Al - don't apologize, we all know most men's thoughts on the backdoor and the likes. <BR/><BR/>I agree 7S, am not sure what some women want from men. A few aspects which I cannot accept in a woman (and this is based experiences amongst friends as well as personal) is the drama, a bossy attitude (a complete turnoff) and lack of anything concrete for a commitment. Above all something which keeps me away from the dating scene in NYC, is the casual sex scene. People jump into bed with absolute strangers - women are willing to sleep with you, before giving a chance to know you and vice versa. If only I had a dime every time I heard - "hit it and quit it, get the hell out so he or she doesn't get the wrong impression, even if he/she asks you to stay- LEAVE!" <BR/><BR/>Here are top 5 topics often discussed in the city dating scene:<BR/>- top player cities <BR/>- sleeping at his/Her place <BR/>- how to date his/her friends <BR/>- how to date a bimbo <BR/>- how to score with a neighbour,<BR/>masseuse and hot extended family.<BR/><BR/>Personally, it's gets me sick, just listening to some male friends, talk of their score over the weekend - but then it makes me numb, when I hear the ladies do the same :)<BR/><BR/>7S: after 6 years of Sex In the City, I don't think Carrie, her friends and Mr Big, understood it all either :)roshhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03271894997251528158noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30314270.post-52932632428402565132007-10-13T16:34:00.000-07:002007-10-13T16:34:00.000-07:007S:Don't get me started... things are quite messed...7S:<BR/><BR/>Don't get me started... things are quite messed up with some men and I really dont blame the women.<BR/><BR/>Firstly, women here do dress up nicely for their husbands. I was actually refering to desi women who don't do hijaab. These women tend to dress up for others and not their own husbands, Wallah. <BR/><BR/>And about you not buying that girls don't know about modern fun, believe me, man, I know guys who don't want to "corrupt" their wives. I have heard all kinds of LAME excuses, which these even-more-lame guys throw around. One of them, for example, says something like "No backdoor with wife because it is a haram act (which it really is), so it's ok to do it outside marriage." Rather than cleansing their minds of this act they find a loophole! Such is the sickness of the human brain.<BR/><BR/>I have one idiot tell me "...how can I allow my wife to do so when she uses the same mouth to read the Qur'an!" The shameless, hypocritical blab can go on and I apologize to everyone for bringing all this up. But, really, 7S, you need to meet some of these idiots to believe it all! <BR/><BR/>As is evident from that book you gifted to your mother, what I am saying above really isn't an exaggeration. You can see how some guys want to have some kinds of sexual desires fulfilled, but wouldn't share them with their wives and would rather have girl friends to share such desires. Their justification is that because such acts are "unislamic" then they should be done outside of marriage. And the icing on this cake of ignorance is that they want to do these acts with non-Muslim girls as somehow it makes it all legal! And, no, they will NEVER marry them because their communities/circle/family will not accept blondes from Europe or a hindu girl. And all those pretty looking blondes think that these guys love them when there is no truth in it at all.<BR/><BR/>Boy! We have really digressed from the ACTUAL topic! :Pal-republicanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09692379981976981057noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30314270.post-61612468870342697532007-10-13T09:06:00.000-07:002007-10-13T09:06:00.000-07:00Ah, so i* preventive steps, eh? :PHa, ha - chainin...Ah, so i* preventive steps, eh? :P<BR/>Ha, ha - chaining your husband to the bed maybe a damn good idea :-)))) …<BR/>but use that soft Sheila instead of chains and I am quiet sure he will stay voluntarily :P<BR/><BR/>… which gets me straight back to the conservative, innocent wife of Al’s friend! <BR/>Lame excuse – unless she is illiterate, there is no real justification that I will buy. It is basically like committing a criminal offence and saying “sorry officer, I didn’t know” – NOPE! <BR/>First of all she could have said no to getting hitched with this dude in the first place! Ok, she missed that one, so step two and btw religious obligation: “make him happy!” So there is “friends”, sufficient literature “how to be the perfect lover” (for him or her), informative Internet, porno DVDs (for visual clarification), or if nothing else works “Sex in the City” (recommended for both him and her) <BR/><BR/>So instead of “smelling like dinner” maybe she should welcome him at the door in beautiful lingerie maybe with a garter belt / stockings and I doubt that this guy will still think of food. There are always two people that have to make this work, so both have to make an effort! And again BTW “man” will always BE IN CONTROL, if he does his part correctly – anywhere in the world! <BR/><BR/>Strange but it seems to be a common problem wherever I work, except in Latin America. You wouldn’t believe how many times I was told in Africa “my wife is so boring, she just lies there like a piece of wood”????? (You already know that I sometimes work with the military where people are usually very straightforward!) Damn – how about communication? It seems to me that most “men” on this earth would love to find a solution to the problem (in other words be her superhero in bed), but just do not know how to get the message across. Instead they will swallow blue pills and well according to all those SPAM mails I am getting “solve the problem”.<BR/><BR/>Yeah, we all want to believe that women are more faithful than men – don’t know why! Unfortunately not true and that is also everywhere – I have three friends in the Emirates who got cheated by their wives and I was surprised about that, just like you I thought it was almost impossible there. <BR/><BR/>I was also surprised about you saying that women only dress up and wear scents when they go out???? So it must be a myth that we believe that all these women in this particular part of the world do is making themselves pretty for their husbands all day – now I am disappointed! <BR/><BR/>Ha, you believe that every man is dreaming of a skinny girl? Oh no, not in Africa – there they want curves, or in Brazil / Argentina they want a big butt, or in Germany most men want big breasts – so don’t blame the media! And when it comes to dancing – every woman knows how to dance – God gave her hips – didn’t he???? So she can shake it, if she wants to – trust me, everything else is laziness! Reminds me that I observed little girls in Brazil practicing how to walk like the “Girl from Ipanema” – so cuuuute – little princesses, honestly. Just didn’t work, because they were children of course. Ah you know that that is name of a song dedicated to a woman’s way of walking? <BR/>If you look at the most basic tribes scattered all over the world, you will always find extremely erotic ways of traditional dancing with these people – now they do not have TV, media or anything that we know of in our modern times. <BR/>It is a natural thing, just like running – we just forgot how to do it!<BR/><BR/>I believe that it is urgently time that people start communicating and start realizing that we live in our modern times. All these unnecessary taboos are really complicating matters and in the end you can see the divorce rate in the GCC countries is rising. I remember reading in “Girls from Ryiadh” (which I actually bought for my mum, but she was talking so much about it that I had to read it myself) “If we are too conservative, they (Saudi men in this case) leave us and enjoy themselves with a girlfriend and when we are passionate they believe we are cheap and divorce us.” Ehmmm, if these are the options wow!!! I would advice any woman to get rid of the jerk and get herself a vibrator! So here we have culture as an obstacle (not religion!!!) and that is a real problem! :-(Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30314270.post-61504728248276801642007-10-13T04:06:00.000-07:002007-10-13T04:06:00.000-07:00Errata on the last paragraph; it should read:My mo...Errata on the last paragraph; it should read:<BR/><BR/><I>My mother always says that it doesnt matter to <B>her</B>...</I>al-republicanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09692379981976981057noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30314270.post-17791536876620837872007-10-13T04:02:00.000-07:002007-10-13T04:02:00.000-07:007S:I like how you surmise the ideal woman's lifest...7S:<BR/><BR/>I like how you surmise the ideal woman's lifestyle!<BR/><BR/>About my friend, let me just tell you that I do not blame his wife. She is an innocent girl who comes from a very conservative background. She probably hasn't the foggiest about modern day idea of fun. <BR/><BR/>The weird part is that this friend of mine has been in a relationship with this girlfriend of his for a good 5 years before his marriage. He simply married his present wife because he WANTED a docile, numb woman whom he could exploit I guess. So that he can take this girl around in his family and show how he is in control and who is acceptable to his family and relatives. <BR/><BR/>I personally think women are more faithful than men. Yes, there is some kind of nature about us men and we tend to get a bit flirtatious. Even a seemingly "fundamentalist" such as myself! What is exacerbating this problem, I believe, is too much inter-gender intermingling. So there are friendships at the workplace and the moment a guy or girl has an argument with their spouse back home, they go to these trusted friends (who are ALWAYS of the opposite sex!). That's where complications arise. <BR/><BR/>Also, in this day and age, people show up to work in good clothes, scents, make up, grooming and their bestest manners. So everytime they go back home, they go back home to a wife who smells of what's for dinner today. She isn't necessarily as made up as what a guy finds at home. My shaykh used to say how women these days ONLY dress up and wear scents when they go out and show themselves to others! Add to this our media these days that projects flat stomached girls with all the perfect proportions appealing and appearing like what every man dreams of. Since these women are "professionals" they know how to "shake it" and do all those crazy turn on dances, which I am sure most women don't know. So the net effect is that men are looking for all this. <BR/><BR/>We men need to stop watching these crazy women who are no better than our wives back home (in fact much worse! Why do you think their partners keep leaving them?). Women on the other hand need to understand what society is like now and need to, as imaginate said, look pleasing to their husbands.<BR/><BR/>I also agree with Rosh that a lot of times women over-react at random flirtations, which leads to unnecessary fights amongst couples. My mother always says that it doesnt matter to him how many women try to hit on my father or if he is ever tempted. At the end of the day, he comes back to my mother and my mother is knows as his Mrs.! <BR/><BR/>But, again, this shouldn't be a license for men to flirt :Pal-republicanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09692379981976981057noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30314270.post-42626046868320653472007-10-13T03:20:00.000-07:002007-10-13T03:20:00.000-07:00sevensummits, I like it when you talk sex and love...sevensummits, I like it when you talk sex and love!<BR/><BR/>As for cheating, some people, as you rightly say, be it man or woman, are just cheaters by habit.<BR/><BR/>I guess everyone has their own view of how a relationship should be, so I don't see the point in me adding anything here :P<BR/><BR/>Except that good sex is of course important - though I imagine even if it is good, there could be a whole host of reasons why either party may go astray...maybe temptation? Or just a spur of the moment thing. I am really not sure but good sex does not seem to be the only reason why either party wouldn't cheat. I wouldn't want to know either, but when married, I would take all preventative steps including chaining my husband to the bed if necessary.<BR/><BR/>(ummm that was a joke btw lol)<BR/><BR/>What I can't wait to get married for is the regular fruitcake hahahah<BR/><BR/>sevensummits, Germans are quite passionate, aren't they lol<BR/><BR/>Ich liebe Dich, mein Schatz! :Pi*maginatehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11768590735811322295noreply@blogger.com